Success Factors And The Differences Between Successful People And Unsuccessful People
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Have you ever wondered what makes a person successful and what makes a person unsuccessful? Or perhaps you have wondered what success means or what it looks like? Recently I have been getting a lot more into the topic of success. I have been learning about self-improvement and self-growth. Because of this I found and read an amazing book that had a big impact on me and how I view success.
It taught me a lot about successful people and how they live their lives. This had a big impact on me and so I decided to research further on this. I learned a couple of things that are vital to success in life and I am now working on them myself. I believe everyone that has a goal and a vision in life should know these things. Learning all of this was a big wake-up call for me and quite confronting as well. However, I believe that the best way to improve yourself is to acknowledge your mistakes.
For this reason, I decided to create a blog post about the top factors to becoming successful in life. If you are on your goal-getter journey just like me, then read on to find out what the top differences are between successful people and unsuccessful people.
1. Successful people let their lives be defined by their goals and their wins.
Fear is the enemy in any dream you may have. People that are unsuccessful tend to live their life based on their fears. They also tend to let their failures define their future. We all fail. It is okay to fail. It is also okay to be scared. However, what is not okay is to live your life based on that. That will not help you in any way. Don’t try to focus so much on ‘but what if I fail?’. Well, what if you win? Try to focus more on your wins. You can acknowledge your fears and fails, but do not let them impact your future. Nothing is set in stone and you are capable of many great things.
2. Successful people dedicate their time to achieve long-term goals:
I notice that a lot of people think of just surviving the day. I don’t think that is a good thing. Life shouldn’t be about surviving the day. Life should be more meaningful. Day-to-day concerns motivate unsuccessful people. They are only concerned about how to go through the next day or the week. I know, it is easy to be more concerned over the now and not think about the future.
However, your future is what will change your daily life. I deal with depression as you may or may not know and for me, it is so easy to just focus on the now. It is so easy not to think about the future because the future is scary. However, I don’t want to let my depression win. Yes, life has not been the best for me, but I won’t let that define my future. One day I want to wake up happy and excited knowing I am living my dream life. This is what I will focus on and not on the negative feeling I may have now when waking up.
3. Successful people are accountable:
Unsuccessful people never lack excuses for their actions. Successful people are responsible and don’t try to justify certain things that went another way. Now don’t get me wrong, there is a difference between an excuse and a reason. Excuses are self-justifications and reasons are explanations. Let me break this down real quick. Let’s say you had are late for an appointment…
4. Successful people pursue success
People generally seek comfort and want their current needs to be met. This is completely normal and human. However, you shouldn’t base your entire decision just on comfort. We need to try to take the necessary action despite the challenges on the way. Yes, it is hard however you will thank yourself in the future.
5. Successful people actively improve results:
Someone that is successful works to be in a better place than they were yesterday. So if we want to be successful we have to want to improve our results and be active about it. If we just remain perfectly satisfied with average results, we won’t improve and we will just stagnate. That is not what we want. You and I deserve unlimited growth.
6. Successful people are comfortable with failure
So it is one thing to dislike failures. No one wants to fail, of course. However, in life, we will fail. That is just the way things are. No one is perfect and things will get hard. Successful people welcome failures. They deal with their shortcomings and work to turn it to success. Someone that is not focused on success will try as much as they can to avoid failure and as a result, can’t deal with it. Willingness and inability to deal with failure are what make people unsuccessful. So acknowledging, accepting and then moving on is very important when it comes to failures.
7. Successful people plan their day
So planning obviously helps in getting the most from each day. What is not good is to just get up and to sort of wing it and let the day decide what happens. This is something I am notorious for, to be honest. I really want to improve this because waking up and now knowing what the game plan is for your day sucks. So let’s break this habit and try to plan better.
8. Successful people surround themselves with the right people
Some people’s energy you do not need in your life. Humans are social animals with the need to belong somewhere. It is ingrained in us. However, if you surround yourself with people that are negative and not trying to improve themselves or their life, this will slow you down. In order to feel good, you need to have good people around you. It is very easy to join in on someone’s negativity. So it is vital to associate with people who are on the same journey. These people include friends, family, mentors, potential business partners or anyone else that is in your life and has an impact.
9. Successful people have good habits.
Success is nothing more than a few good habits and repeating them every single day. Habits that are positive and effective: just like proper brushing and flossing habit gives you healthy teeth. Any good habit will lead you to a higher level of success. What are your habits? And where do they lead you?
10. Successful people talk about ideas and not people
Don’t get me wrong on this one. It is okay to talk about people in a positive way and how they positively impacted someone or something. However, if you constantly gossip about someone or are negative about someone, it will look bad on you and eventually have a bad effect on you. You shouldn’t be concerned with other people’s issues. You should be concerned with your own.
I also want to talk quickly about obsessive celebrity culture. So, nowadays celebrities are everywhere. They are on tv, on YouTube, on Instagram and pretty much any other social media platform. Celebrities often just show the good things in their life and they usually don’t open up about the ugly things. It’s part of not wanting other people to know they are just like any average Joe. What it does is it creates envy, It makes people think ‘Oh I wish I had her life’ or something similar like that. The celebrity gets put on a pedestal and receives a ton of attention and interest. This interest can, unfortunately, turn into something toxic.
It doesn’t even have to be this deep. Even influencers are sometimes guilty of just showing the good parts and this can consciously or unconsciously start to affect you. It can impact your self-image and this constant comparison can diminish the value you put on yourself. This is why I quit Instagram for a long time because I needed to get myself together. So, if this has happened to you… You’re not the only one.
From the list, it is evident that there is a clear difference between successful people or people wanting to be successful and those who are unsuccessful. How many of the items on the list do you identify with? I realize I am not perfect at all and I am really happy to have read and learned about this. Also, if you identify with a few please don’t feel bad about yourself. That’s not the point of this. Trust me, I wish I could identify with all of them. However, we will get there! It’s about learning and acknowledging these things. What are the changes you are thinking of making in your life?